F E A R

I Never realized how many Fears I had …Until I started to face them.

Today I went to my first of many meeting for Toastmasters. Greeted & welcomed by 20 people I walked into the years in making meeting I have been wanting to attend. Energy and creativity filled the room as it was “Hat Day” ;where you got to wear your favorite hat. Although anxiety rattled my nerves just watching others in the room speak, I told the group leader I am going to join before I walked out the door.  Today I continue to face my fears as I had started in 2012…. as the chains of fear slowly fade as l fulfill my promise to myself to live my life to the fullest.

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Pursuit of Happiness

“I just want to be happy.” How many times have you heard this or even said this yourself. Many people chase happiness through a variety of paths : working to gain extra money, achieving a certain look, mood altering substances , gaining a status, relationships, etc

I have been reading Deepak Chapra: 10 Keys to a Happy Life. Food for thought as  I set  & tweak goals for 2013!  He speaks of not pursuing happiness for of living a life of fulfillment that is “carefully weaved with happiness.” Key elements that I have that resonated with me to create a happy life:  happiness equals listing to your gut, meditating, being mindful, utilizing love to make daily choices – detach from judgement of self & others, put only healthy elements into your body & mind, let go of negativity.

Coping with Stress through Awareness, Choice & Creativity

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I took a deep breath yesterday and looked at how I was allowing my stress to work it’s way into my day. I noticed poorer eating habits, procrastination, zoning out by surfing the net, &withdrawing from friends and family by ignoring phone calls.

Then I reflected upon the 4 A’s: avoid unnecessary stress, alter the situation, adapt to the stressor, or accept the things you cannot change. I praised myself for spending a good part of the day researching various companies in the area &  companies I bookmarked months ago. I decided to accept that I am where I am …and it’s ok. With those two decisions I reached out to a loved one for support. 

Then I focused on Management of Stress… that included having fun and relaxing. Here is what followed:

  • My loved one decided to Grill out in the snow, he cooked traditional food in his family that is supposed to bring good luck for the year “pork chops, mashed potatoes & sauerkraut.”
  • Watched a comedy.
  • Then we played with one of his beloved christmas gifts, a horse head.
  • I drank a glass of wine and took a hot bath to end the evening.